I have my natal Sun in Libra, the sign of relationship, conjunct Chiron in Libra and have spent many years analyzing what makes us tick when it comes to relating to others.
Outer planets aspects to the Moon are often more challenging to integrate than to other personal planets because so much of what the Moon represents is not easily accessible on a conscious level. I know this because my poor beleaguered Moon is conjoined Neptune, trine Uranus and sextile my Saturn-Pluto conjunction. This time around I’m going to look at Uranus and Pluto.
Uranus and Pluto in aspect to the Moon are extremely tough to handle because their demands are so different. Uranus gives a need to feel free and autonomous emotionally while Pluto leans towards intense and controlling. As long as those dynamics are not accepted and internalized, all our relationships will reflect them – or lack of relationships as the case may be.
On one hand, rebellious Uranus says break all the rules and do whatever it takes to be your most authentic self (or behave very selfishly). The square and conjunction of the Moon and Uranus can make a person appear cold and detached emotionally.
On the other, Pluto-Moon aspects often suggest issues with mummy dearest. Judy Hall’s book, “The Hades Moon”, is loaded with examples of the more extreme sort. Controlling our own emotions or manipulating others through their emotions is often associated with Pluto aspecting the Moon – neither work worth a darn in the long run. Best bet is to stay as neutral as possible and let go of any and all expectations for yourself and others in your life. Hard but doable.
There is a darn good reason I did not marry until I was almost 45 years old because of an excellent track record for effectively sabotaging my relationships by choosing partners who were incapable of committing, or if they were, then I walked. Thing is I am also strongly Libra with Chiron in Libra urging me always to learn more about being an effective partner and I truly enjoy being part of a one-on-one relationship.
It is very important to keep in mind there is no one way to be. If you are single and happy, that’s fine or married with children and loving it, that is OK too. The challenge is sorting out our own deepest preferences from those imposed by the culture we live in and our familial expectations. The Moon in particular relates to both family and our cultural roots. Practicing forgiveness and kindness are much needed here.
Love to hear from others with their Moons in aspect to both Uranus and Pluto.
Here i go again …. my only square is the Moon square Uranus ….but my venus in scorpio is conjunct to saturn and pluto in libra so …i do like close tight deep relations ..my sun in scorpio too …so i don;t know how that moon square uranus acts out …maybe in the fact that i am very independent of my own parents …i rather have them away than close?I do love them tho
Liz, how interesting, my Venus in scorpio is conjunct those two little devils, but in Scorpio. And I have Moon trine Uranus. Obviously, there’s a big contrast between those two impulses, so it’s all a bit of a mess. If Pluto/Scorpio wasn’t complicated enough to have around Venus, there’s also the independent pull from Uranus. It’s easy to sabotage relationships like this
I didn’t think I had Moon-Pluto aspects but Diane found a minor aspect with a strange name, hehe.
My Gemini moon aspects just about everything in my chart except Venus. I like narrow orbs and major aspects generally, but the sheer number of aspects is striking:
semisextile Mars (0 degree)
sextile Saturn (1 degree)
inconjunct Uranus (1 degree)
inconjunct Sun (2 degrees)
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trine Mercury (8 degrees)
trine Pluto (8 degrees)
opposite Neptune (9 degrees)
sesquiquadrate Jupiter (3 degrees)
The wider aspects to Mercury, Pluto, and Neptune, I think matter because the Moon is my chart ruler.
Anyway, having Moon-Uranus-Pluto-Saturn, I do totally sympathize with your sentiments on outer planet aspects.
Hi Liz,
I can see Moon sq Uranus as wanting to be independent of the parents. Too much parental involvement can feel suffocating for a Moon-Uranus person. I know I loved my parents the most when I lived far, far away from them – beat the heck out of having my mom walk into my house without knocking.
diane~
Hey DM!
I didn’t think I had Moon-Pluto aspects but Diane found a minor aspect with a strange name, hehe.
Yeah, a Quadnovile. Noviles are considering harmonious minor aspects but it’s still a connection.
diane~
Hi Jessica!
Yes, that’s a lot of aspects to your Moon and you are so right about the importance of the Moon w/Cancer rising.
It just takes us with outer planet aspects to the Moon longer to process our little quirks than those individuals who don’t have them. What we gain is the ability to empathize with others dealing with similar issues. A very good thing IMO.
diane~
I have a moon conjunct uranus in libra 2 degrees apart. I don’t feel like I’m emotionally cold, on the contrary I am a very emotional person. .I do love freedom though, don’t like anyone telling me what I can or cannot do. I am noticing I am getting more rebellious the older I am (37)! Maybe my taurus sun and ascendant evens it out.
Welcome, Mama!
The key word was “appear” to be emotionally cold and detached, more as a protective mechanism for tender feelings.
I am noticing I am getting more rebellious the older I am (37)!
As we gain life experience we do get better at standing up and letting others know how we really feel about things. Libra Moon as I well know inclines one to keep the peace, sometimes at a personal cost. Uranus is good for encouraging us to be our most authentic self . . .
Taurus Sun & rising has to be a great leveler all right!
diane~
You are exactly right…keep the peace at personal cost! I’m finding that can cause bitterness if one is not careful. Life is too short, sometimes we have to realize we have to take care of ourselves/needs to really be healthy.