Unwritten contracts are the set of assumptions or expectations we bring with us into our interactions with others. All the fixed signs (Taurus, Leo, Scorpio and Aquarius) are prone to hanging on their preconceived notions about how events are supposed to unfold but Pluto ruled Scorpio has the most difficulty with revising these.
There are many, many times when Scorpio’s tenacity and will power work for them and the rest of us watch with awe. The Scorpionic ability to transform their personal landscape is downright amazing. However, like many of Pluto’s gifts, it can be treacherous if not wielded with caution and awareness especially when it comes to relating to other human beings. Like a double-edged sword, our assumptions can cut us as deeply as they do our loved ones. If we have impossibly high standards of how we are supposed to behave in our relationships, we are opening ourselves up to failure time after time.
With all the Scorpio I have natally, learning to recognize my own set of assumptions is an ongoing project. For instance, I felt it was my responsibility to prepare breakfast for my significant other, despite the fact I am so not an early riser. Living with someone who likes to be up and out the door by six o’clock in the AM meant I needed to get up at five to have breakfast ready on time. Wandering around feeling grumpy and sleep deprived was not a good look for me. When I went back to work and needed all my attention focused on getting my butt out the door on time, it became obvious it was much easier for my husband to fix his own breakfast – no big deal to him. It was all me demanding I do this because that’s what I felt that was part of being someone’s wife. Nutz huh?!
I have been on the receiving end of Scorpio assumptions too. Many years ago I dated a Scorpio man who insisted I lose weight, wear padded bras because my boobs were too small and generally conform to his idea of the perfect woman. Dare I say this man made my permanent sh*t list? By the way, this man’s Sun was closely squared by Pluto, exponentially increasing Pluto’s influence. When he attempted to worm his way back into my life twenty years later, he STILL hadn’t changed! It happens . . .
Just so you know, I also know and love plenty of Scorpios who have worked through and discarded their expectations for themselves and others. Good people.
Most of these behavioral assumptions and expectations stem from our childhoods. We model our behaviors on the important adults in our lives, usually our parents. Babies and young children hit the ground absorbing everything they can. The ability to discriminate between what is a good fit for us as individuals comes much, much later . . . if ever. A very good reason for being kind and forgiving to ourselves, isn’t it?
Where Scorpio falls in our charts can give us some idea of the nature of our assumptions. With Mars-Mercury in Scorpio conjoining my Scorpio Ascendant, it is no surprise my expectations are primarily focused on me in a very personal way and related to how I present myself to others.
Just for the fun of it, where is Scorpio in your chart and do you have expectations of yourself or others related to that house or planets?