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Recently I had one of those “aha” moments about natal Moon-Neptune aspects and how they can get one into dicey situations. The Moon represents the less than conscious side of our beings and operates on the feeling level. Neptune’s contribution enhances the Moon’s naturally sympathetic nature, sometimes leading those of us with Moon-Neptune aspects to do things on behalf of those we care for we later regret.
Many years ago I ended up having a relationship with a man a Virgo woman friend of mine was crazy about. It was as if I was her surrogate and she was experiencing the relationship thru me. The two of them were friends and for some reason he wasn’t interested in becoming her lover. He was a spiritual leader and she idolized him. At the time Neptune was in Sagittarius and transiting my first house, so heaven only knows what he projected on me . . . I sure don’t! Uranus was conjunct my ASC during the same time period. I did end up living with this fellow for about three months and it did not end well, in part because he had way too much Leo squaring my Scorpio planets.
I suspect my Moon-Neptune conjunction made/makes me vulnerable to very strong emotions in those I care about. Between absorbing their emotions and my own desire to please to them, my own preferences and intuitive responses can be overridden. Recently a woman friend of mine had a similar experience and she has a natal Moon-Neptune square. In her case, her close woman friend was in a committed relationship not free to act on the powerful attraction she felt for another man. However, she “sold” this man enthusiastically to her friend (who was undergoing a Neptune transit to her DES). Now the whole sorry mess is history, my friend is shaking her head and wondering whatever got into her!
For both of us, there was a deep sense of disillusionment after all was said and done. Neither man was a person we would have been drawn to under other circumstances and once the fog lifted that was very clear. I do believe it is the hard aspects between the Moon and Neptune where it is easier to lose sight of reality and fall into Neptune’s dreams. [F.Y.I. I consider the conjunction between the Moon and all the outer planets to be a hard aspect along with the square, opposition and inconjunct.]
I’m curious if those of you with hard Neptune aspects to your Moon have ever experienced something similar where the desires of someone close strongly influenced your actions. My feeling is this is also a boundaries issue because we do tend to be more open to those we like/love . . . yeah, uncomfortable paradox.
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Oh yes I can relate to this quite well. I have natal Moon in 7h opposite Neptune in the 12h (close in orb). It doesn’t seem to affect my life as much now that I’m older, but it caused me to make some interesting decisions in love when I was young. I was never in touch with how I felt about a person, I was too concerned with how they felt about me and I played along accordingly like a zombie. And so I would end up with someone who I NEVER would have given the time of day to otherwise. The fog was very thick back then. I also had a desire to help save someone, improve them, help them, felt it was my duty. Ugh – how far I’ve come since then, thank goodness!
Hi queenofcups!
I also had a desire to help save someone, improve them, help them, felt it was my duty. Ugh – how far I’ve come since then, thank goodness!
Good point about the “rescue mission” stuff . . . that’s part of good ole Neptune too.
All I can say is thank goodness we managed to survive long enough to recognize what was going on. Getting the 12th House involved just adds more of this element, doesn’t it. Yikes!
xoxoxoxo diane~
I have natal moon conjunct Neptune conjunct Mercury in Scorpio nonetheless! I do find that I that I have intuitively picked up on someone close’s feelings and acted on them rather than expressing my personal feelings. Yes, boundaries is a major area of concern with Neptune conjunct moon. These days, North node is practically right on top of my natal Neptune and my moon. I have been feeling uncontrollably weepy the last 2 days or so. Perhaps you can help me interpret what this alignment means.
Hi Rekha!
These days, North node is practically right on top of my natal Neptune and my moon. I have been feeling uncontrollably weepy the last 2 days or so.
From what I gather, a North Node in Scorpio transit can bring a need to examine our fears & desires to the surface. No surprise your emotions are running high w/the North Node conj your Moon-Neptune. Hopefully this is passing and you are feeling less emotionally fragile. {{{{{Rekha}}}}}
xoxoxo diane~
YUP. It’s tricky! Moon square Neptune and it doesn’t help having a 12th house sun/merc, either! With the moon in the 11th its almost always the influence of my group of friends that influences me. I find that I might feel a certain way about someone when we’re alone together, and then if I’m with a friend who doesn’t like that person i start to feel the same way, or if they like them a lot I feel that way, too. It’s madness.
You remember when I was involved with the neptunian aries man? we had a double whammy moon square neptune in synastry as well as in our natals. We both “fogged” each other repeatedly. We could make ourselves believe we were in love whenever it was convenient (or if we were drunk…).
Strangely, though, my best friend since childhood and I have this same aspect and it hasn’t caused any problems except our tendencies to co-delude about situations…aka we lend each other a very believing ear when it comes to our fantasies.
Hey Orianaaa!!
Yeeah . . . madness it can be. Fortunately once you realize what’s going on, it’s possible to avoid the worst effects.
Strangely, though, my best friend since childhood and I have this same aspect and it hasn’t caused any problems except our tendencies to co-delude about situations…aka we lend each other a very believing ear when it comes to our fantasies.
LOL! Mostly harmless then.
xoxoxo diane~
Dear Diane,
Thank you for writing this. In my case, the fog has well and truly lifted and yes, I am shaking my head in disbelief at how easily the web was cast and caught me in it (me who prides myself on my Virgo Rising). I have to say, I owe you a great debt of gratitude because it was your balance advice, along with your analysis of our respective charts so accurately and with great wisdom, who was the guiding light that carried me home.
Wishing you a good and relaxing weekend.
Deirdre
Hi Deirdre,
I am happy to hear the fog has lifted!
One of the reasons I share these little tales from my life is to let others know they aren’t the only one who has ended up in a sticky situation. The downside of Neptune aspects natally can sneak up on us and we often don’t realize how deep we’re in until it’s too late. Climbing out can be a challenge . . . here’s to making it to the other side!
xoxoxoxo diane~