Outer planets aspects to the Moon are often more challenging to integrate than to other personal planets because so much of what the Moon represents is not easily accessible on a conscious level. I know this because my poor beleaguered Moon is conjoined Neptune, trine Uranus and sextile my Saturn-Pluto conjunction. This time around I’m going to look at Uranus and Pluto.
Uranus and Pluto in aspect to the Moon are extremely tough to handle because their demands are so different. Uranus gives a need to feel free and autonomous emotionally while Pluto leans towards intense and controlling. As long as those dynamics are not accepted and internalized, all our relationships will reflect them – or lack of relationships as the case may be.
On one hand, rebellious Uranus says break all the rules and do whatever it takes to be your most authentic self (or behave very selfishly). The square and conjunction of the Moon and Uranus can make a person appear cold and detached emotionally.
On the other, Pluto-Moon aspects often suggest issues with mummy dearest. Judy Hall’s book, “The Hades Moon”, is loaded with examples of the more extreme sort. Controlling our own emotions or manipulating others through their emotions is often associated with Pluto aspecting the Moon – neither work worth a darn in the long run. Best bet is to stay as neutral as possible and let go of any and all expectations for yourself and others in your life. Hard but doable.
There is a darn good reason I did not marry until I was almost 45 years old because of an excellent track record for effectively sabotaging my relationships by choosing partners who were incapable of committing, or if they were, then I walked. Thing is I am also strongly Libra with Chiron in Libra urging me always to learn more about being an effective partner and I truly enjoy being part of a one-on-one relationship.
It is very important to keep in mind there is no one way to be. If you are single and happy, that’s fine or married with children and loving it, that is OK too. The challenge is sorting out our own deepest preferences from those imposed by the culture we live in and our familial expectations. The Moon in particular relates to both family and our cultural roots. Practicing forgiveness and kindness are much needed here.
Love to hear from others with their Moons in aspect to both Uranus and Pluto.