This week’s question comes from Katie in San Rafael, CA:
I’m a Gemini and my husband is a Pisces. We’ve been married for 15 years (second marriage for both of us) and I consider him my best friend. But according to astrology, we shouldn’t even get along. I had a reading a long time ago, and the astrologer was so accurate it was scary. But astrology is totally inaccurate in terms of my own personal experience in my relationship. Can you explain this?
Katie, this is a good example of why Sun sign astrology can be misleading when it comes to relationships. Your Pisces husband has his Moon in Sagittarius, which is very harmonious with your Gemini Sun. In addition, your Moon in fiery Leo is quite happy relating to his Moon in Sagittarius, creating an atmosphere of emotional understanding and making it much easier to synchronize your daily routines.
He has Sagittarius as his Rising sign, placing Gemini on the cusp of the seventh house of partnerships and the same sign as your Sun. Another plus is your Mercury in Gemini conjunct his Descendant, and that is good for communications. This aspect is strengthened because Mercury is Gemini’s ruler.
Your Ascendant in Cancer and his Pisces Sun are in a favorable trine, adding another positive tie between your charts. A parallel working for this relationship is him having his Sun in a mutable sign and located in his third house, so it operates much more like your Gemini Sun, suggesting you two have lots to talk about.
Enjoy your lively relationship!
I couldn’t agree more with Neith and would like to emphasize the limitations of Sun sign astrology when it comes to compatibility in intimate relationships. There is so much more to it.
In addition to Neith’s analysis, I’d like to add that your Venus is in a very close sextile to your husband’s Mars, indicating a dynamic sexual attraction. I have yet to find a couple that has been together for many years that doesn’t have this “glue” to hold their relationship together.
Of course, this also means that his Mars is almost directly opposite your Moon. Moon-Mars aspects typically indicate powerful sexual chemistry, but when they’re in opposition, there may be some tension surrounding intimacy. Still, tension is not always a bad thing and can be great for your sex life.
Lastly, I’d like to note that your Sun is in the first degree of Gemini, while your husband’s Sun is in the last degree of Pisces. In other words, he’s almost an Aries. In fact, your Sun signs don’t conflict at all but actually are in a positive, harmonious relationship.
We’d love to know whether your Sun sign or Rising sign influences your feelings toward your Gemini brothers and sisters, so feel free to leave a comment!
Results of Last Week’s Poll
In last week’s poll, we wanted to know how into astrology you are. Here are the results:
30.4% answered “Totally; I’m an astrologer.”
17.4% answered “I can’t start the day without my horoscope.”
47.8% answered “The astro-blogosphere is my favorite hangout.”
4.3% answered “I think I had my chart done once.”
No one asked, “It’s good for laughs.”
No one answered “All of the above.” (That was just Neith’s idea of a joke, anyway!)
Once again, we’re delighted to find that our readership is so knowledgeable about astrology. But we were surprised to find out how many other astrologers visit our site.
Nearly half of you are no strangers to the astro-blogosphere. Then, Neith and I have hosted blogs for more than two years, and many of you migrated over from Neith.net and Neith on Synastry - both of which appeal to a knowledgeable readership – and The Pisces Chronicles, which has assembled an extraordinary community of consciously aware human beings (in my admittedly biased opinion).
Still, RealAstrologers.com is expanding in its own right as more and more people around the world discover our unique site. Tomorrow is our two-month anniversary. In that short period, we’ve had well over 11,000 page views, with readers in 58 countries on six continents. Within the United States, our readership is distributed across the entire country, with visitors from 40 states plus the District of Columbia. Neith attributes this to the Sagittarius Ascendant in our composite chart. (Sagittarius is the explorer and world traveler.)
Thank you all for being part of our lives. Please help us grow by spreading the word. And send us your feedback! We’d love to hear from you.
There’s no better image of Mercury in Gemini than twittering birds, and it’s no coincidence that we now have Twitter on Real Astrologers.
Mercury in Gemini is tailor-made for Twitter, the new way to keep track of friends and family. The messages are short, sweet, and not too deep. Think of it as a hybrid between blogging and text messaging from your cell phone. We think of it as a mini-blog and a perfect new format for astrology. Thus, Astro-Twitter was born!
You’ve seen it in action … and there will be a whole lot more action when more of you join! Don’t be shy. You don’t need to be an astrologer or even know much about astrology to participate. All you need to do is let us know what you’re doing and how you’re feeling, and we can compare that to what the planets are doing to see how they correlate.
This is also great if you’re from another country and feel a little challenged writing in English. The short Twitter format doesn’t require grammatically whole sentences, and no one will notice if subject and verb don’t agree. So please don’t let that stop you. At last count, Real Astrologers had readers in 34 countries on six continents! We’d love for Twitter to be an international flock, too.
It is very easy to sign up for Twitter, and it’s free. Once you have an account, ping me via e-mail or through Twitter messaging, and I will add you to our list. That’s all there is to it. All we ask is that if you plan to use Twitter for other purposes, please create a separate account and screen name for participating in Astro-Twitter. Otherwise, we’ll be inundated with so many off-topic messages that it won’t be Astro-Twitter. Do you follow me?
Join the fun! Add your voice to our fledgling Astro-Twitter community.
P.S. If you’d like to add Astro-Twitter on your own blog, let us know, and we’ll send you the code.
This request came from a Gemini woman about a relationship with a Leo man whom she met some time back online. Their initial meeting in person went very well, but things went flat after that.
They have good synastry between their charts, with both Moons in Aries and excellent Sun to Moon exchanges with her Gemini Sun sextile his Aries Moon and his Leo Sun trine her Aries Moon – all comfortable fire and air signs.
In fact, the overall compatibility between the two charts is strong with several intra-aspects (where the same planets aspect each other from both charts). There are Venus/Sun and Venus/Neptune aspects for fun and romance, along with Mars/Uranus and Mars/Pluto aspects for really great chemistry. The Saturn/Mercury intra-aspect is a little more challenging, because on some level, communications feel blocked and there may be a sense of not feeling understood by each other.
Another positive factor is having the harmonious aspect between their Ascendants. She has Pisces rising, and he has Capricorn on the Ascendant. This indicates that they have similar ideas about what a good partnership is all about. His Venus/Saturn/Jupiter stellium in Libra falls in her seventh house conjunct her Saturn/Jupiter – a lot of Saturn for durability, balanced with Jupiter’s optimism.
The difficulties may arise because of issues hinted at in the natal charts. His Sun in Leo is the apex of a T-square with Uranus in Scorpio opposing Chiron in Taurus. Uranus/Sun aspects make for a very independent personality, and whenever I see Chiron aspecting the Sun I suspect self-image problems – an uncomfortable pattern to learn to work with.
Also, his Moon in Aries opposite his Venus/Saturn/Jupiter stellium in Libra indicates a tendency toward emotional ups and downs and difficulty assessing how he feels about his partners. Her Saturn/Jupiter conjunction in Libra squares her Venus in Cancer. This parallel between their charts offers an avenue to understanding, but when Saturn aspects such as these are present, it can take time to develop a level of trust.
They both have Saturn in Libra, so relationships are a serious business and, as I’ve noted before, this inclines a person either to avoid commitments or to embrace them completely. These two have a lot going for them from an astrological perspective. I wish them well.
Some time back I did a post on Gemini and asked this particular Gemini Sun person if I could use her as an example of this most versatile of signs. At the time, she was so busy doing Gemini things she didn’t get back to me before I posted that blog. However there was a very good reason for my interest in talking about her chart as this person has a chart that has layers of dualities in it.
Even though the only Gemini in her chart is Gemini Sun with Chiron in Gemini as her Rising Planet, this is a very Gemini person. Her chart is all about dualities starting with the Jones Chart type which is the See-Saw. This pattern basically has her planets grouped on opposite sides of her chart meaning she is constantly moving from one side of any issue to another. It also means she has a lot of oppositions in her chart. The challenge here is finding a way to bring balance to these oppositions. The key, as always with oppositions is that they involve compatible elements: Fire & Air, Earth & Water What is trickier for this young woman is finding her way to a balance between the sets of oppositions in each pair of elements. She has her Gemini Sun opposed by Uranus in Sagittarius, the ultimate in independence and wide-ranging free spirit. Then her Cancer Moon/Mercury is opposed by Neptune in Capricorn, deeply sensitive and intuitive.
Throw in an Aquarius Rising and you begin to see her challenges. Her Air & Fire side is always up for having fun and heading out the door to seek adventure – Jupiter is the ‘T’ in a T-square involving her Sun/Uranus. She was born in one country & culture and is living in another country with a quite different set of cultural mores, and needless to say, these come into conflict occasionally.
Her heart needs as shown by her very sensitive Cancer Moon/Neptune opposition are deepened by an exact opposition between Venus in Cancer and Mars in Capricorn which resides in her 12th House. With the Moon, Mercury and Venus in the 6th House being aware of her sensitivities is important for her overall health. Again, seeking balance comes into play. For this individual, moderation in all things including moderation needs to become a life style!
When looking at dualities, the Moon Nodes are another very important element. Her North Node is in Aries in her 3rd House (Gemini in a natural wheel) and of course her South Node is in Libra in the 9th House (Sagittarius home base). Yes, the pattern is following true to form. This time the balance is between forging ahead as an individual and working with others on a one-to-one basis.
The theme as I see it in this chart is not necessarily one of moving to one side or the other but of incorporating elements of both and forging a new way of being. The best of both worlds. With her Mercury in Cancer forming a trine to her Pluto in Scorpio, she has the capacity to think deeply and to tap into the richness of the unconscious mind to aid her Gemini self in this task. From what little I know of this delightful young woman, she will do just fine . . . there is an intrinsic sweetness of nature and generosity of spirit that is very heart-warming in addition to that fine bright intellect! Here is an abundance of good wishes and warm thoughts coming to you, haiku ambulance!!