Neptune themes have been all too common in people’s lives recently and with a Full Moon in Neptune ruled Pisces today; the foggy one has been on my mind. He can lead even the most rational of us off into la la land and for those susceptible to Neptune’s brand of Romance, disillusionment is almost sure to follow.
Why is being disillusioned a good thing? Because once we’ve let go of the impossible dream we can begin to reformulate our ideas about what constitutes a good workable relationship based in reality. You know the kind between two people who like each other, warts and all, the sort highly recommended by Saturn in Libra. There are those who are unable to let go the illusion of a perfect love and every time their hopes are dashed, denial sets back in and off they go in search of the person they are sure is their soul mate. By the way, this is classic behavior for the commitment phobic . . .
Some natal indicators for potential Neptune inspired problems include Neptune opposed to the Sun, Moon and Venus, or Neptune on the Descendant. Trines and sextiles between those planets can fall into Neptune’s rose-colored trap on occasion but usually they are able to pull out of it. The reason the opposition is so important is because relationships are about the “other” and so much easier to project upon. In this age of meeting people online instead of in person, creating a marvelous fantasy relationship around those individuals is dead easy. It doesn’t help that so many people can’t resist “improving” the photos they post or seriously editing the information they give . . . very, very Neptunian. In politics, it’s called spin. For meeting potential lovers it can be downright stupid. After all, the plan is to meet face to face at some point, right?
How can we determine what makes us susceptible to Neptune’s illusions? The planet he aspects can offer insight. If it is the Sun those issues may stem from our relationship, or lack of one, with our fathers (or male authority figures) and the Moon points to mothers or other strong female figures in our early lives. Venus and Mars often mean buying into the concept of romance portrayed in the media. Aspects from other planets can bring out different facets too. For instance, I have a natal Moon-Neptune conjunction sextile Saturn and Pluto. I got carried away with misplaced nurturance among other things . . . following my mom’s example of co-dependence.
What can you do if you are the person at the center of someone else’s fantasy life? Just be as matter of fact as possible and reinforce your personal boundaries at every turn. Hit them over the head with the reality of who you are as frequently as possible until it looks like the message is getting through. If you don’t, you may end up contorting yourself to fit into those expectations and I can just about guarantee resentment will build up to the explosion point all too soon.
Saturn is still in Libra until October and is ready to remind everyone of the value of having open, honest, equitable relationships that endure because they are based on two genuine people who see each other with clear eyes. Contrary to popular opinion, Love is not blind . . . though it is occasionally willfully ignorant.